Societies prodded by religious views continue to insist sex is a moral issue.
Sex is a physiological function like urinating and defecating. Bladder and bowel movements whenever and wherever the urge arises are not possible. For hygienic health reasons, control must be exercised.
Similarly, since multiple indiscriminate sexual relationships can be emotionally and physically devastating, wisdom dictates that sexual impulses be curbed.
Friday, March 13, 2009
Saturday, April 5, 2008
Finding Inner Wisdom
Nirvana. Ecstasy. Bliss. Inner Peace. Contentment
No matter what we call it, we all want it.
Abraham Maslow referred to self-realization; the general populace equates it to maturity.
Maturity in this context is different from aging, and can occur at any age. Maturity is a combination of experience, wisdom, and freedom.
Experience is gained by repetition of the trials and tribulations of daily life.
Wisdom happens when experience is successful in teaching us to see the world in new ways. Usually simpler ways. Things that appeared complex and onerous suddenly seem easy. We realize our mind was playing tricks on us. Life flows smoothly when we refrain from creating webs that we eventually fall into and become trapped in. It takes courage to turn experience into wisdom.
Wisdom leads to freedom. Yes, wisdom gives us the freedom to be daring; freedom to dance to our music; in more practical terms, freedom to stop worrying about what other people think; freedom to follow our hearts.
The greatest disservice that parents, friends, society as a whole can do to a human being is to propagate customs and traditions through the reinforcement of gender roles and morals that no longer apply.
Using modes of transportation as a comparison, the concept becomes clear: modern societies have come a long way since the horse and buggy and the sail and row boats, today travel is faster and safer either by car, aeroplane, or huge floating hotels fueled by their own generators. Unless for religious reasons, very few people would opt to use a horse and buggy as the sole means of getting from one place to another.
In order to find inner peace, it is necessary to break free of the constraints of the past and view life in a whole new way. This idea might appear rebellious, as freedom has been tainted by disorder and chaos. Since anarchy has become synonymous with freedom, it is essential to emphasize that it is not anarchy that is being advocated but rather “responsible freedom”.
Changing your thoughts can change your life. Any type of change requires change in thinking which requires determination. It is at this point that most of us get stuck.
How does one change an apparently involuntary function of the brain?
The brain is powered by electro-chemical impulses. The predominant neurotransmitters cruising through the brain determine our moods. For example an imbalance in norepinephrine and serotonin is one of the causes of anxiety disorders including separation anxiety. The make up of chemicals keeps us on a treadmill, moving but not getting anywhere, the proverbial “vicious cycle”. Hence, the wide use of drugs and alcohol to change the chemical make up of the brain.
Artificial mind altering substances are just one way of affecting the chemical process, diet and exercise, change in routine, for instance, are also effective.
Understanding the process of life differently is another way to get out of the “rut”. There is no universal reward and punishment system. Life is a series of actions and consequences where everything has an emotional price. The questions you should be asking are:
1. Am I getting enough return for my investment? In other words are you getting more pleasant or unpleasant results from your actions?
2. How much am I willing to pay for my indulgences?
Instead of popping a pill at the same time everyday, take time to STOP, go within, question the beliefs that keep you repeating actions that lead to unpleasant consequences.
Find and let yourself be guided by your inner wisdom!
No matter what we call it, we all want it.
Abraham Maslow referred to self-realization; the general populace equates it to maturity.
Maturity in this context is different from aging, and can occur at any age. Maturity is a combination of experience, wisdom, and freedom.
Experience is gained by repetition of the trials and tribulations of daily life.
Wisdom happens when experience is successful in teaching us to see the world in new ways. Usually simpler ways. Things that appeared complex and onerous suddenly seem easy. We realize our mind was playing tricks on us. Life flows smoothly when we refrain from creating webs that we eventually fall into and become trapped in. It takes courage to turn experience into wisdom.
Wisdom leads to freedom. Yes, wisdom gives us the freedom to be daring; freedom to dance to our music; in more practical terms, freedom to stop worrying about what other people think; freedom to follow our hearts.
The greatest disservice that parents, friends, society as a whole can do to a human being is to propagate customs and traditions through the reinforcement of gender roles and morals that no longer apply.
Using modes of transportation as a comparison, the concept becomes clear: modern societies have come a long way since the horse and buggy and the sail and row boats, today travel is faster and safer either by car, aeroplane, or huge floating hotels fueled by their own generators. Unless for religious reasons, very few people would opt to use a horse and buggy as the sole means of getting from one place to another.
In order to find inner peace, it is necessary to break free of the constraints of the past and view life in a whole new way. This idea might appear rebellious, as freedom has been tainted by disorder and chaos. Since anarchy has become synonymous with freedom, it is essential to emphasize that it is not anarchy that is being advocated but rather “responsible freedom”.
Changing your thoughts can change your life. Any type of change requires change in thinking which requires determination. It is at this point that most of us get stuck.
How does one change an apparently involuntary function of the brain?
The brain is powered by electro-chemical impulses. The predominant neurotransmitters cruising through the brain determine our moods. For example an imbalance in norepinephrine and serotonin is one of the causes of anxiety disorders including separation anxiety. The make up of chemicals keeps us on a treadmill, moving but not getting anywhere, the proverbial “vicious cycle”. Hence, the wide use of drugs and alcohol to change the chemical make up of the brain.
Artificial mind altering substances are just one way of affecting the chemical process, diet and exercise, change in routine, for instance, are also effective.
Understanding the process of life differently is another way to get out of the “rut”. There is no universal reward and punishment system. Life is a series of actions and consequences where everything has an emotional price. The questions you should be asking are:
1. Am I getting enough return for my investment? In other words are you getting more pleasant or unpleasant results from your actions?
2. How much am I willing to pay for my indulgences?
Instead of popping a pill at the same time everyday, take time to STOP, go within, question the beliefs that keep you repeating actions that lead to unpleasant consequences.
Find and let yourself be guided by your inner wisdom!
Wednesday, January 9, 2008
“What’s love got to do with it?”
If marriages are meant, expected in fact, to last until death, why is it that today, many marriages do not last past the honeymoon?
To answer that question we have to look at the original meaning and purpose of marriage, in contrast with present societal mores.
Today’s adults are not equipped, mentally or emotionally, to deal with the consequences of lifestyle changes that have taken place.
Throughout history marriage was seen as an irrevocable contract between two families, for social, economic and reproductive purposes. Marriage was inevitable, dissolution impossible.
Familial ties were binding, not essentially out of love, but out of necessity. The family unit provided a safe haven for the members, ensuring that material and physical needs were met. In times of crisis, the family served as a support system.
The elder members of the family passed on the customs and traditions orally from generation to generation and made all the rules. There was no refuge for the non-conforming.
As in most cultures, not all, inheritances were passed on through male descendants; chastity for womyn became an important rule. If womyn were allowed multiple partnerships, paternity could not be determined; succession of property would be negatively affected.
Times changed. Advances in technology altered the way people lived as well as the way information was disseminated. The human scene was transformed forever.
The Kinsey Reports published in 1948 and 1953 had a tremendous impact on sexuality. The two volumes, “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male” and “Sexual Behavior in the Human Female” revealed that homosexuality and adultery were more prevalent than generally believed and accepted.
Two world wars taught womyn that they could survive on their own. They could work, make a living, and raise children. The advent of the birth control pill in late 1950’s gave womyn total control over their reproductive system. The 60’s became known as the decade of the “sexual revolution”. Womyn were free to enjoy and express their sexuality without fear of unwanted pregnancies.
We live in a world of confusion, inner conflict, and turmoil, yet we are not ready to recognize that the dynamics of marriage have changed. It is hard to imagine that it was only in western cultures of the 20th century that the notion of “romantic marriage” became pervasive. Marriage has become a “relationship” with the component of “love” as its main ingredient. The problem is that love is transitory and relationships require hard work to maintain.
The situation is aggravated since working on a relationship, demands working on the self. Most individuals do not have the courage to face the demons lurking within, thus are reluctant to examine old constraining mental precepts. Yet, it is only when we become stronger and more confident as individuals that relationships will blossom.
To answer that question we have to look at the original meaning and purpose of marriage, in contrast with present societal mores.
Today’s adults are not equipped, mentally or emotionally, to deal with the consequences of lifestyle changes that have taken place.
Throughout history marriage was seen as an irrevocable contract between two families, for social, economic and reproductive purposes. Marriage was inevitable, dissolution impossible.
Familial ties were binding, not essentially out of love, but out of necessity. The family unit provided a safe haven for the members, ensuring that material and physical needs were met. In times of crisis, the family served as a support system.
The elder members of the family passed on the customs and traditions orally from generation to generation and made all the rules. There was no refuge for the non-conforming.
As in most cultures, not all, inheritances were passed on through male descendants; chastity for womyn became an important rule. If womyn were allowed multiple partnerships, paternity could not be determined; succession of property would be negatively affected.
Times changed. Advances in technology altered the way people lived as well as the way information was disseminated. The human scene was transformed forever.
The Kinsey Reports published in 1948 and 1953 had a tremendous impact on sexuality. The two volumes, “Sexual Behavior in the Human Male” and “Sexual Behavior in the Human Female” revealed that homosexuality and adultery were more prevalent than generally believed and accepted.
Two world wars taught womyn that they could survive on their own. They could work, make a living, and raise children. The advent of the birth control pill in late 1950’s gave womyn total control over their reproductive system. The 60’s became known as the decade of the “sexual revolution”. Womyn were free to enjoy and express their sexuality without fear of unwanted pregnancies.
We live in a world of confusion, inner conflict, and turmoil, yet we are not ready to recognize that the dynamics of marriage have changed. It is hard to imagine that it was only in western cultures of the 20th century that the notion of “romantic marriage” became pervasive. Marriage has become a “relationship” with the component of “love” as its main ingredient. The problem is that love is transitory and relationships require hard work to maintain.
The situation is aggravated since working on a relationship, demands working on the self. Most individuals do not have the courage to face the demons lurking within, thus are reluctant to examine old constraining mental precepts. Yet, it is only when we become stronger and more confident as individuals that relationships will blossom.
Saturday, January 5, 2008
Prayer
I trust in the Divine,
In the Divine I trust.
I know
All will be
As it should be,
I trust in the Divine,
In the Divine, I trust.
In the Divine I trust.
I know
All will be
As it should be,
I trust in the Divine,
In the Divine, I trust.
Sunday, December 16, 2007
How to Change Unwanted Patterns of Behaviour
Solution: Fake It Until You Make It - One Step At a Time
1. Accept. It took time to acquire whatever pattern of behaviour you are trying to eliminate; it is going to take time to change it.
2. Fake. Make time every day, even if it is just for a minute or two to start, increasingly slowly with time, to practice the new behaviour, practice makes perfect.
1. Accept. It took time to acquire whatever pattern of behaviour you are trying to eliminate; it is going to take time to change it.
2. Fake. Make time every day, even if it is just for a minute or two to start, increasingly slowly with time, to practice the new behaviour, practice makes perfect.
Friday, December 14, 2007
A Seasonal Message
Traditionally one of the major holidays at this time of year is Christmas. As not everyone is of the same faith, allow me to put forth a brief explanation of the significance of the date chosen, as well as a suggestion that will hopefully enhance the lives of all those who chose to consider it.
December 25th was decreed as the official date of Jesus’ birth by Pope Julian, in 345 C.E., under the auspices of a newly converted Roman Empire. Yet, since the earliest civilizations, major religious festivals, in all beliefs, have taken place in late autumn, early winter.
The timing followed the course of nature. Late autumn being a time to give thanks for the harvest, the winter a time of rest with rebirth in the spring.
The date for the revelry known as the Roman Saturnalia and pagan festival of Yule, both celebrating the winter solstice, coincided with the birth of the Mithras the Persian god said to have been born on December 25. Mithraism a rival to Christianity, had reached Rome c 67 B.C.E. Pope Julian, cleverly appropriated these dates. There can be no argument that it is easier to get people to follow established patterns, than to acquire new ones.
For two millennia the historical Jesus has been the cause of wars rooted on religious intolerance. Today, the debate rages on as to whether Jesus actually existed. In my opinion it is essential that we stop emphasizing the messenger and focus on the message.
Be it two thousand years old, or five thousand if we accept as evidence the Egyptian myth the message, similarly believed by most religions of the world, is that every human being carries within a “Spark” of Divine Manifestation.
Accepting that a “Divine Spark” joins all human beings, frees us to overlook physical and intellectual differences and realize that we are all derive from the same “Source”.
With that principle in common we can use nature as a model, and look at this time of year, as a time to shed the old branches that draw on our resources. Let go of old grudges forgive those whom you believe have grieved you; forgive yourself for having allowed unkind feelings and thoughts to steer you away from compassion and love.
Use the time between now and Spring to reflect inwardly and strengthen your inner “Spark”, allow the Light from Within to shine BRIGHTLY!
BLESSINGS
December 25th was decreed as the official date of Jesus’ birth by Pope Julian, in 345 C.E., under the auspices of a newly converted Roman Empire. Yet, since the earliest civilizations, major religious festivals, in all beliefs, have taken place in late autumn, early winter.
The timing followed the course of nature. Late autumn being a time to give thanks for the harvest, the winter a time of rest with rebirth in the spring.
The date for the revelry known as the Roman Saturnalia and pagan festival of Yule, both celebrating the winter solstice, coincided with the birth of the Mithras the Persian god said to have been born on December 25. Mithraism a rival to Christianity, had reached Rome c 67 B.C.E. Pope Julian, cleverly appropriated these dates. There can be no argument that it is easier to get people to follow established patterns, than to acquire new ones.
For two millennia the historical Jesus has been the cause of wars rooted on religious intolerance. Today, the debate rages on as to whether Jesus actually existed. In my opinion it is essential that we stop emphasizing the messenger and focus on the message.
Be it two thousand years old, or five thousand if we accept as evidence the Egyptian myth the message, similarly believed by most religions of the world, is that every human being carries within a “Spark” of Divine Manifestation.
Accepting that a “Divine Spark” joins all human beings, frees us to overlook physical and intellectual differences and realize that we are all derive from the same “Source”.
With that principle in common we can use nature as a model, and look at this time of year, as a time to shed the old branches that draw on our resources. Let go of old grudges forgive those whom you believe have grieved you; forgive yourself for having allowed unkind feelings and thoughts to steer you away from compassion and love.
Use the time between now and Spring to reflect inwardly and strengthen your inner “Spark”, allow the Light from Within to shine BRIGHTLY!
BLESSINGS
Thursday, December 6, 2007
Mind Power Healing – Fact or Myth?
Do miracles happen? Can we create miracles in our daily lives?
The trick is learning how. It is not hard really, it is just a matter of believing. Hey, there’s the rub!
What are the three things real estate agents consider important?:
Similarly there are three key essentials in mind power healing:
You must have the “will” to heal the self or to assist in healing others. Without intent no amount of positive thinking or intervention will work.
They call it the “will to live”. Why is it that some patients recover from what appeared to have been a fatal disease, while other succumb to a simple illness? It is all due to the person’s intentions and willingness to heal.
Healing is not the same as curing!
Curing is the process of eliminating disease from the body.
Healing is the process of achieving a state of well-being regardless of the condition of the body. Nonetheless, healing can be used to help the body rid itself of the toxins and blockages that cause discomfort... i.e. disease.
Before we can talk about what we can do to help ourselves and others to heal, we have to understand how the body works and how the process of “mind power healing” affects the body.
When the battery dies in your car, one normally requests a boost. Why? To assist in the recharging of the battery so the car will run again.
Mind power healing works by boosting the energy level of the body. As an example, we draw from the Universal Energy Field normally in moments of reflection, prayer or mediation. During moments of intense concentration one is focused on the desired result. Thus, intent, focus and belief become the driving force that make miracles possible.
Of course we can!
The trick is learning how. It is not hard really, it is just a matter of believing. Hey, there’s the rub!
What are the three things real estate agents consider important?:
Location, Location, Location
Similarly there are three key essentials in mind power healing:
Intent, Intent, Intent
You must have the “will” to heal the self or to assist in healing others. Without intent no amount of positive thinking or intervention will work.
Doctor’s know that!
They call it the “will to live”. Why is it that some patients recover from what appeared to have been a fatal disease, while other succumb to a simple illness? It is all due to the person’s intentions and willingness to heal.
Let us look at healing.
Healing is not the same as curing!
Curing is the process of eliminating disease from the body.
Healing is the process of achieving a state of well-being regardless of the condition of the body. Nonetheless, healing can be used to help the body rid itself of the toxins and blockages that cause discomfort... i.e. disease.
Before we can talk about what we can do to help ourselves and others to heal, we have to understand how the body works and how the process of “mind power healing” affects the body.
When the battery dies in your car, one normally requests a boost. Why? To assist in the recharging of the battery so the car will run again.
Mind power healing works by boosting the energy level of the body. As an example, we draw from the Universal Energy Field normally in moments of reflection, prayer or mediation. During moments of intense concentration one is focused on the desired result. Thus, intent, focus and belief become the driving force that make miracles possible.
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